So You Want To Be A Unicorn: A Guide to Dating Polyamorous Couples
A unicorn is a person who is willing to join an existing couple to form a polyamorous triad. The label is most commonly used for single bisexual women who join heterosexual couples, but unicorns can be of any sexuality or relationship status.
No, Polyamory Is Not A ‘Solution’ To Cheating
I’ve been seeing a worrying trend on the internet recently, where people say that anyone who cheats in a monogamous relationship “should just be polyamorous”. Worse yet, some seem to think that if everyone were polyamorous, cheating wouldn’t exist. There seem to be a lot of people who conflate polyamory with doing whatever you want. This post aims to address why not all cheaters are “actually polyamorous”.
Let’s Talk About ‘Revenge Dating’ in Polyamory
I’ve come across a toxic phenomenon in the polyamory community which I would like to call “revenge dating”, which is when you date someone for the sole purpose of taking revenge on, or manipulating, someone else.
Emotional Libertarianism in Polyamory: Are We Responsible for Other People’s Feelings?
Emotional libertarianism, as defined by More Than Two, is “a belief that every individual is entirely responsible for his or her own emotional responses and that person’s behaviour is never the “cause” of another person’s emotion.”
Why You Should Disclose Polyamory in Your Dating Profiles
A very common new-to-poly question that is asked in polyamorous circles is when and how to bring up that you’re polyamorous to a potential date. The answer, in my opinion, is and should always be basically immediately, no questions asked.
15 Common Red Flags in Polyamorous Relationships
A significant number of polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous people try to claim that polyamory is an “enlightened” or “evolved” form of doing relationships, but the truth is that there are crappy people in any relationship dynamic. Unfortunately, given the lack of education on how to do polyamory in a healthy way, many people abuse the label “polyamorous” and use it as an excuse for flat-out terrible behaviour.
Why Unicorn Hunting Doesn’t Work
Unicorn hunting is a practice which is very much frowned on in the poly community, but it is unfortunately depressingly common with people who are new to polyamory. Essentially, it’s what happens when a couple (usually a man and woman) seek out a “third” (usually a bisexual woman) to “add” to their relationship, where the couple is non-negotiably a package deal – the unicorn must date both of them, or neither of them – and usually with the additional demand that the unicorn must be exclusive to the couple to form a closed triad.