What’s New: December 2024
NEW Polyamory Resources on YouTube!
I've updated my YouTube channel with 10 hours' worth of content on non-monogamous topics ranging from online dating to threesome tips to relationship anarchy! These are full recordings of events I've done at public festivals, conferences, universities, and more. I also did an 1.5 hour long live Q&A to celebrate my page turning 4, and don't forget that my 14-episode podcast miniseries from 2021 is also on there, along with lots of other videos!
If you like what you see, don't forget to subscribe—there may be more coming in the new year...
Updates From My Video Diary!
Sometimes, polyamory can be stressful—but it doesn't have to be the end of the world! Recently, my partner made a mistake that resulted in my polycule experiencing our first major conflict, and I shared with my Patreon supporters how my partner, metamour and I communicated through it—including an 11-minute voice note I sent to my metamour. I'm so proud of our conflict resolution skills and resilience through the more difficult emotions, and we came out the other end stronger for the experience.
I also have another video on disclosure boundaries, how much to keep your partner up-to-date on what's going on in other relationships, and a (smaller) rupture that me and my partner navigated. While I am always committed to showing how a polyamorous life can work through my public content, there are some private details and stories I prefer to keep for those I know are truly invested in directly supporting me.
And that's not all for this month on Patreon—I've also posted content on stepping off the relationship escalator, top 5 sex myths you should stop believing in, and the intersection between race and polyamory. There's so much you're missing out on if you're not subscribed—and you also get 20% off peer support and workshops on top of everything else!
If you want to watch these as they drop, here's the link to join—or if you know someone who'd love exclusive membership, you can now gift a subscription to my Patreon to whoever you like!
And speaking of gifts...
Polyamorous Gifts for the Holidays!
Did you know that I designed the shirts I wear in my videos? Well, if you like them, you can get em'—and not just on shirts!
My Threadless shop has a variety of designs including my favourite "Too Hot For Monogamy" T-shirt, my "ComPURRsion" mug with 3 cats in the polyamory flag colours, or a more subtle polyamory heart design in a variety of pride flag colours. You can get them on shirts, hoodies, mugs, stickers, and more.
I also have two holiday-themed designs—"Have A Jolly Poly Holiday" and "Have A Holly Poly Christmas"—to celebrate the festive cheer!
Extra, Extra, Read All About It...
In case you missed it, I have a polyamory advice column at Gay Times, and the latest issue is out—this one's about the intersection of sex work and non-monogamy!
I was also on the Q_Topia Podcast to talk about the intersection of non-monogamy and neurodivergence. (P.S. If you want more about this, you should check out my Polyamory and ADHD workshop.)
Other interviews: I was on USA Today to share my experiences as a polyamorous person of colour; on Men's Health to explain a new term 'symbiosexuality'; I gave advice on how to ride a dick with Cosmopolitan; and not to mention two explainer articles for Cosmo (again) on syntribation and invisible string theory.
If you're interested in more behind-the-scenes content, I post all my recordings with the journalists who interviewed me for their articles exclusively on Patreon.
So if you want to know all the things I said that didn't make it into the actual article, join my Patreon for a library of voice notes containing so much more insight and detail than what is shown to the public.
Need Support?
The holidays can be tough for some, and I'm here to support you through it if you need me. My peer support service will be running as normal, so don't hesitate to reach out if you need emotional support, advice, or just a space to vent about all things non-monogamy.
