What’s New: April 2024

My website blog has officially been revived to archive all my past newsletters. By the way, surprise - I’ve finally launched one! Here’s what was in my April newsletter.

NEW Online Workshop Next Month!

Join me and Annie (@annie_undone) on May 19, 11am PDT for Is it Over? A Workshop on Breakups and De-Escalations. In this 90 minute workshop, we’ll give concrete advice on deciding how to redefine or restructure a relationship, what conversations need to be had, the unique challenges of breakups within non-monogamous networks, and dealing with the anxiety of change, and much more. There will even be a live Q&A!

Can’t make the event time? That’s okay. All ticket holders will receive a recording of the workshop after the event.

Both me and Annie have been through some significant breakups recently, so it’s going to be spicy…

A Sneak Peek of Future Content (TW: SA)

Some of you may have seen in my stories that I went through a pretty traumatic situation in March, when I found out that one of my partners had assaulted a friend of mine. Obviously, this was a very sensitive issue with lots of people involved, which is why I’ve delayed talking about it to give it all time to settle.

The victim fully supports me telling her story, and I  feel compelled to do so because I know that I’m not the only person who has been through this incredibly nebulous situation. The polyamorous community is vulnerable because we are marginalised, and as a result, there are bad actors in the community who will take advantage of that vulnerability. 

So, I’ve made a 3-part video series on the topic of ‘Polyamory and Sexual Assault’ to talk about my experience and hopefully get you thinking about how to stay vigilant within your communities and keep your people safe.

Subscribe at the £5 Metamour tier or above, and you’ll get these videos dropping:

Part 1: Power, Boundaries, and Abuse - May 10

Part 2: Cognitive Dissonance and Restorative Justice - June 10

Part 3: Anger, Injustice, and Regret - July 10

My video diary entries are uploaded on the 10th and 20th every month, so I’ll be covering other topics as well - coming up is content around navigating fluid bonding agreements and negotiating sleepovers for guests.

Preview My Latest Patron-Only Videos

Sharing Space with Multiple Partners

Earlier this month, my comet partner visited me in Bristol and stayed with me and Taylor for a few days. Taylor and I finally got to put our theoretical nesting agreements into practice, and some unexpected things came up in the process. Watch a preview here!

My Hot Take on “The Couple Next Door”

I could not look away from this absolute trainwreck...and it got me thinking about non-monogamous representation in the media and bad rep versus no rep at all. Click here to watch a preview.

Physical Affection in Casual Relationships

An old FWB came back into my life earlier this year, and in this video I talk about why I decided to give him a chance despite the poor way our connection ended over a year ago. Watch the preview for free.

What’s Coming Up…

I’m still nailing down details with my agent, so I can’t officially make any announcements yet, but I will say you can expect to see me live and in person at festivals and events this year! 

If you want to be among the first to hear about my events, subscribe to my newsletter - and if you subscribe to my Patreon, you’ll get event recordings even if you can’t make it in person!

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